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I consider my mentors and role models on goalsetting and achievement some of the best minds in the industry of personal and professional development, to name a few famous ones:
In this post, I construct a tripartite framework that incorporates what I have learned from these people and others. The three prongs of the framework are: dreams and goals; values and beliefs; action and non-action.
Dreams and Goals
Establishing a dreams list means stepping outside the box of the currently perceived reality. If you were in a movie, in which you wrote the script, you would be unaffected by the current reality. This is the mindset from which dreams are established and from which you can create a set of dreams for your life. Stepping into the state of understanding that nothing is impossible, that ‘the world’s your oyster’ and that even seemingly impossible goals can become not only possible but real is crucial before beginning the process of identifying and documenting your dreams.
You don’t need evidence for these statements to be true, however, you can easily find stories of people who were able to make their dreams come true, whether business-people, people who were affected by very serious illness or afflicting life circumstances, athletes or showbusiness stars etc. So the evidence is there that achieving one’s dreams is not only possible, but given that we all have certain mental, physical, spiritual and emotional resources at the very least, can be made increasingly probable. However, you do not even need to believe that a dream could come true for you. It is important to understand that the ‘how’ is not yet important and does not need to be in place. First things first – identify the dream – let doubts and objections which arise, take care of themselves. Am I making sense? …if so, good!
The point being made is that in creating a dreamlist, the mind is open enough to accept, even for the few moments that the list is being written, that there are no obstacles, for the purposes of the exercise: age, fear, resources, background, not knowing the ‘how’ etc etc are discarded and left aside during the exercise of identifying dreams. Dreams are defined here as the big, often seemingly impossible objectives for life that might seem way off into the future. Here are a list of questions that can be used to capture the imagination and draw out your dreams:
What do you want to create or do?
What do you want to own?
What do you want to create or contribute?
What do you want to be?
What would be perfect in your ultimate future?
Goals, objectives or outcomes are an extension of the dreams list. In general, goals might have a potential reasonable timeframe in your mind that is more reasonably short, whether 1 day, 1 week, 1 month, 1 year or a few years. Goals might seem more ‘realistic’, but they do NOT have to be. When writing your goals, here are 5 suggestions that tend to be the ‘bread-and-butter’ of successful goal setting as taught by many of the experts in the processes. I’ll add some jam, but I won’t go into the reason why these rules are suggested at this time. I will teach this to you in 5 sections, each building on the next. The first 3 are the basics, the second two are intermediate techniques and less well known.
1. Write your goals in the present tense.
2. Write your goals using a pronoun.
3. Write your goals in the positive.
4. Write your goals using 2nd and 3rd person and your name (affirmations)
5. Read your goals out loud, and as you do, practise holding the thought in mind that this is achievable for you, you can do it. You can record your goals and listen to the recording regularly.
Further to this, write your goals regularly – perhaps choose the top 3 or 5 and write them daily, and read your goals to yourself, preferably twice daily (on waking and before bedtime, for instance).
Implementing 1 – examples
Goal – to become a goalkeeper in my local football team – INCORRECTLY FORMULATED GOAL
I AM THE GOALKEEPER IN WINNERSVILLE SOCCER CLUB
– note how the goal is now phrased in the present tense.
Additional tip: you can add a date such as ‘on or before 11 April 2031’ to any of the goals (or dreams) either when you write them or later on.
Goal – to be the top performing test-taker in my class – INCORRECTLY FORMULATED GOAL
I AM THE TOP PERFORMING TEST-TAKER IN MY CLASS
– note how the goal is not only in the present tense, it contains the personal pronoun “I”
Goal – I do not worry any more – INCORRECTLY FORMULATED GOAL
I AM A POSITIVE, SERENE AND HAPPY PERSON AT ALL TIMES
– note how the goal is now phrased in the positive, eliminating the negative ‘worry’ from the equation. Note also how the ‘at all times’ may bring up resistance as being ‘unrealistic’, ‘impossible’ and perhaps even undesirable – perhaps you have become so attached to worry or convinced that it has hidden benefits or payoffs, that your mind isn’t ready for you to let it go completely… nevertheless, for some people, not only do they have this goal, they have achieved it.
Now you have learned how to properly formulate a goal statement, you can add a lot of power to it in the following three ways. First, you can add your name to the formulation. Second, you can write it in the 2nd person pronoun as well as the 1st person pronoun. Third, you can write it in the 3rd person pronoun as well, as follows. NB. I learned this technique from affirmations expert and goal setter, Sondra Ray who wrote: I Deserve Love and also Rebirthing.
Taking the incorrectly specified goal: to not be poor in the future
Let’s reframe it using the 4 implementations above:
I, SAM, AM A MILLIONAIRE BY THE TIME I AM 40 YEARS OLD, EASILY AND JOYOUSLY
YOU, SAM, ARE A MILLIONAIRE BY THE TIME YOU ARE 40 YEARS OLD, EASILY AND JOYOUSLY
HE, SAM, IS A MILLIONAIRE, BY THE TIME HE IS 40 YEARS OLD, EASILY AND JOYOUSLY
NB. Goals framed in this way can be useful for the practice of affirmations, writing the goal out at least 5 times each, for each pronoun, and by the side of each writing out, noting any feelings, thoughts or emotions that arise bring awareness. Letting go of these thoughts, feelings/emotions – positive or negative – will bring you to who you really are and also dramatically reduce the time involved to reach the goals. Simply practicing the writing of the affirmations and the noticing of what arises as you ‘write your lines’ can of itself be both therapeutic and transformative.
5 speaks for itself – get a bound notebook, spiral pad or journal or writing pad for this purpose.
Additional tip – using colored pens and creating patterns or pictures with them around your written goal statements, or writing the goals themselves in different colours is another tool you can use. We will go into the technique of dreamboard creation in another post.
Values and beliefs
Your values are what are important to you. Your beliefs are what you believe to be true. Examples of values are: family, money, peace of mind, truth, love, happiness, empowerment, fulfillment. Examples of beliefs are: people are generally good and supportive when you offer them the same; I am a good person; Politicians are all liars; the world is a harsh place; the universe is essentially supporting life, and that includes me… and so on and so forth.
To elicit your values, you can ask the question:
What is important to me about … X?
Where X is your goal, or its any other part of life, like family, my habits, the course I am taking, my career, sex, etc etc.
Once you come up with perhaps a word or phrase, or a few notes (Y), you ask the question again:
What is important to me about Y?
Keep doing this, normally about 4-5 times is sufficient for each area, to identify your CORE VALUE.
Identify as few as 2 and as many as 6 core values that are your most important values in life. For each goal and dream, cross-check that they are aligned with your values, if not, reword or restructure the goal so that they are values-aligned. Crucially, do this with your dreams as well! It is very important that your values and goals are aligned.
Beliefs absolutely define how your experience life. They are CREATIVE because they tell you what to focus on and essential WHAT THE LAWS ARE IN THE UNIVERSE YOU EXPERIENCE. When either your VALUES or your BELIEFS are challenged – i.e. the world, a person, or a thing does not conform to your beliefs and values, you may experience a conflict pain.
It is important to NURTURE positive, empowering beliefs, and to remove and reframe negative, disempowering beliefs. We will look at this in a later post. For now, identify 2-3 empowering beliefs that could support either your dreams or goals such as:
I HAVE EVIDENCE OF ACCOMPLISHMENTS IN THIS AREA, SO I COULD ALSO BE SUCCESSFUL IN THAT AREA – I CAN DO IT
I ALREADY HAVE THE RESOURCES AND SOME OF THE KNOWLEDGE – THE GLASS IS ALREADY OVER HALF FULL
PEOPLE ARE GENERALLY KIND AND SUPPORTIVE, MOST OF THE TIME
Notice how beliefs aren’t ‘true’ per se, but they provide a framework for how our current map of reality is understood consciously. Importantly, when we communicate what we believe or desire to believe to our unconscious or subconscious mind, that part of you is responsive and able to adopt the new belief, or place greater focus on the empowering belief. The same goes for disempowering beliefs, but you can make the decisions here and decide to change those and replace them with more positive and empowering beliefs. The way to remove disempowering beliefs from your system, is to question and challenge them, to ‘catch the thought’ and reason towards something more truthful, or in the case where you believe the disempowering belief strongly, and it is tough to shift, asking questions to get leverage. As Tony Robbins taught in ‘Awaken the Giant Within’:
What’s absurd about this belief?
What is continuing to believe this going to cost me in terms of my:
emotions and mental health?
physically health and well-being?
relationships with myself and others?
When you fully realise and actually feel the pain of what holding on to the disempowering belief has done to you, is doing to you and will do to you in future – honestly! – you may find making the decision to let it go and work on developing a better conviction and habitual way of thinking, much easier…
What could I believe instead of this?
What consequences will this have on my:
emotions and mental health?
physically health and well-being?
relationships with myself and others?
How will that make me fele?
What kind of person am I going to become now I have adopted this new belief?
We can use a similar process to re-order the priority sequence or even the structure and content of the values we identified, if our values are conflicting with our goals. Are you beginning to see how this aspect of the triad is both very important, but also, extremely powerful?
Action and non-action
High performance individuals work towards achieving their goals, and have the energy to try again and again. Make an action plan to achieve your goals. The best technique to do this that I have found is working backwards. From the point of having already achieved your goal, what would be the prior action you would have taken? And prior to that? And prior to that? Until you get back to present time. This is a highly effective strategy for engaging your imagination and stretching the possibilities. It is not important you know exactly how you will reach your goal. It is important that you delineate such a plan so at least you have some idea of some of the actions you may be taking en route. Flexibility is also key. Action that comes fairly naturally and spontaneously is always far better than ‘driving the lorry uphill with the breaks on’.
This is the ‘growth’ part of the process. Letting go (or releasing), relaxing, hypnosis, meditation, sprirituality, resting, visualising, and even simply forgetting about your goals are all a part of what I call the ‘non-action’ part of the process of goalsetting and achievement. Learning to trust and also to understand that the power residing within and without you – is ENOUGH is a skill in itself. Non-action is not the same as laziness. It is ALLOWING and WELCOMING, and appreciating the principle that the Chinese call ‘wu-wei’ and some Buddhists term ‘non-beingness’, others, like Eckhart Tolle for example, simply ‘Being’, or one of my personal favourite ‘Masters’, Lester Levenson, ‘beingness’ or ‘Self’ with a capital S.
So there we have a concise and of course, not fully complete mini-goals workshop framework in less than 2220 words and we’ll conclude right here because all the information you need to get started is above.
A Practical Compendium of Strategic Thinking & Objective Attainment Processes Begins Here
Models for success are fascinating and inspirational. Taking a decision to learn and apply them was a dramatic turning point in my life. Success work is fun, exciting and a repeatable habit that can become a daily praxis. The more you do it, the more and better results you get. When you learn what to do and how to do it, and are willing to try with an open and expectant mind, it is possible to enjoy laying the foundations for such rapid and empowering transformation that the idea ‘your dreams can come true’ can truly be brought to life, in your life. Once the foundations are laid, with continued focus, the results will fall into place as you continue to combine inspired and planned actions with relaxation and letting go.
On this blog I will present many models of success. Each of them point in the same direction. Each of them work, if they are worked. They do not require great efforts. Ironically, they require such comforts as relaxation, breathing, positive and vivid use of imagination and a particular attitude – that of open-minded, enthusiastic expectancy. So there is some flexing of muscle, but what else is muscle to do but stay flaccid or wither – use the muscle, experience the growth and transformation, only in ways that are pleasant and exactly right for you in pace and degree.
Please allow me the great honor to introduce to you the concept of the Magnetic Thinking triad, introduced to me by one Bob Dignard, an American in Brazil at present, around ten years ago in 2005, on recommendation from another great friend and mentor, Johan Taft of London, originally a naval officer from Beligum and now a great businessman and peak performance consultant.
Magnetic thinking is the principle that a certain way of thinking – of feelings and emotions – of state – of words and what you say to yourself – of vision and imagination – and of spirit – soul and connection to ‘God’ in whatever myriad of ways God seeks you out and comes to you, TOGETHER become an unstoppable force, an irresistable current, drawing towards you, what it is that you desire.
Magnetic thinking is a potent formula, an elixir, a potion, a metaphysical mixture of the triad of:
EMOTIONAL AND FEELING ENERGY – BEYOND DESIRE
– being very clear on what it is that you want, your objective or goal to the point that it is very easy to focus on what your desire is, because you know precisely what it is, in all necessary detail. Desire is the emotional energy. This is not the same desire as want or wantoness – rather it is the empowered sense of knowing very clearly what your outcome, goal or want actually is. Paradoxically, in becoming absolutely clear on what you want, you become desireless, which is the precise state that tends to attract to you effortlessly what it is that you really want. I use the term beyond desire, because we are talking here about the emotional energy – the feeling and absolute trust and knowing of having what you want, in the present moment, such that your mind really cannot tell the difference between the current external reality and the reality of having precisely what you desire, right now, in your feeling state. Having what you want, in your mind, tends to satisfy desire, satisfy your mind. This in turn gives a sense of confidence and serenity. This is essentially a form of freedom from the ego, with focus on a clear outcome held in mind, understanding and believing that if we possess sufficient positive and clear emotion and intention, essentially harmonising with the energetic vibrational frequency to attract our desired outcome, this is sufficient enough to set in motion the laws required to set nature into momentum for us receive that outcome into our lives, in the present moment, even if it requires passing through some clock-time before we are living in the manifested outcome itself.
CREATIVE IMAGINATION – LINKING THE PASSION WITH THE VISION
– the energy of imagination is possibly woman and man’s greatest gift. Imagination is what enables us to envision our goals, our desired outcomes, what it is we want in our lives. There is no financial or transactional relationship in this. Imagination seems to come free, as a gift from God to use or misuse as we choose. That we have this free choice is crucial. That we harness and make use of our imaginations is even more important. Our imagination holds the key to our ability to communicate and focus on what we desire, through envisioning that reality. This aspect of the magnetic thinking triad involves honing a very clear, very detailed, succinct, big, 3D vision in your mind. The more you can crreate the experience in your mind of ‘living in your goal’ before it has even been achieved, the more you will be convinced of it being yours in the present moment, which is vital. The vision should include the sights, sounds, smells, what you will be hearing internally (saying to yourself, or hearing intuitively), and externally – sounds on the outside, in addition to linking this vision in total integrity to the emotional and feeling energy you created in the first step.
ACTIVATION OF THE SPIRITUAL ENERGY – FAITH & GRATITUDE
– the combination of faith and gratitude are a phenomenal synergy. The activation of the spiritual energy takes place when creative imagination fully develops the vision of what is to be – the design step of destiny – the power of creative imagination and fully immersing oneself into the full feeling (fulfilling) energy of having what one truly desires and has decided to set about obtaining using this method of manifestation. Faith is the total belief, the conviction without any shred of doubt of the attainment of the desired end result. Certainty is power. A superb and proven adjunct is gratitude – being thankful, in advance, for the experience and total knowing that the goal apparent is the goal in the moment. Forward gratitude is a phenomenal tool for positive thinking energy, boosting faith and dissolving doubt. Feeling good, in the moment, is in itself an attractor factor for happiness and success. The academic field of positive psychology, and the mystics of the ages have confirmed that ‘gratefulness brings great fullness to life’. This vital aspect to the Magnetic Thinking triad is what truly magnetises your goal like a supernatural force for good. It demonstrates your willingness to bring faith and spirituality into the equation – an area far too often neglected in a politicised and often secular world, on one where perceived negative aspects of religion have betrayed the power, benefit and truth of simple and perhaps universal spiritual principles. Let go and enjoy the process.
Listen to this audio of the teacher who first introduced me to Magnetic Thinking, Bob Dignard, going through with me one of my first major manifestation results using Magnetic Thinking and all of its elements in 2006 – happier times have been had since that’s for sure. It’s my gift to you.