Belief mini-workshop on self. Few journal lines first.
Reasonable day today, a lot less strict on what I was eating, and last night also had a bit of a biscuit binge, so definitely time to work on the dis-empowering beliefs I identified yesterday, and more importantly, to be kind and gentle, and keep going with what has been working very well up to now. The alternative seems to be a complete sabotage, which probably needs facing up to as well, rather than fearfully avoiding the notion that it might be happening. Honesty is the best policy.
It’s important to note that the table below is not an exhaustive set of beliefs, just those that came up during the exercise that might be operational.
Beliefs that empower and support
- I’ve got all the resources I need.
- I can do it
- It’s God’s Will – I put in the footwork
- This or something better
- I’m empowered because I’ve a powerful brain and strategies
- I enjoy being naturally thin and happy
- I really care about achieving vibrant health and wellbeing
- Being healthy is a part of being wealthy and successful
- God desires for me to be radiantly healthy and well
- My wellbeing matters. I’m actively participating in ensuring my wellbeing.
Beliefs that disempower
- I always end up foul of cravings
- If I mess up even a little, I’ll pile on the pounds
- I deserve to be punished for failure
- I can’t do this, it’s too hard
- Something will happen that forces me back to square one
- I’m doing it wrong
- Others are all better than me
- I need my parents’ approval (first).
I suspect that quite a deeply held belief is that I need my parents’ approval first. Core beliefs can be much more difficult to change or shift, because they were often adopted at a very early age. Other core beliefs can arise from trauma experiences, again, commonly at an early age.
I’ll actually start with a relatively easy one, or a belief that feels a little lighter, which is “If I mess up even a little, I’ll pile on the pounds.
There are four approaches that I’ll combined to tackle the challenge of changing or shifting an unconscious belief, that has been identified as such, consciously.
Firstly, a pain / pleasure matrix that is introduced in Anthony Robbins’ personal power audios, and his books. This involves a square or matrix consisting of two columns and two rows, so like a square with a plus sign dividing the square into four.
In each of the four smaller squares inside the big square is a question designed to establish consciously and subconsciously the consequences of holding the belief or of letting it go.
Secondly, to take a direct questioning approach to the belief, to challenge the evidence holding the belief in place – to knock the legs from under it. I’ll rely again on one of Robbins’ techniques which is to ask:
What’s absurd or ridiculous about this belief?
What’s the belief costing me emotionally, physically, mentally, and in my relationships? What will it cost me to continue to hold onto it?
Do I now have enough leverage to make the decision to let it go once and for all? Can I now decide to do so?
What’s a new belief that would empower, inspire, help me to create what I want and develop new and positive behaviours from, if I truly decide to adopt it?
How do I feel now with the new belief? Who will I become with the new belief? What will that person look like, feel like, be saying to themselves? Who am I with… i.e. future pace etc. Make it real.
Thirdly, I’ll employ Byron Katie’s self-inquiry approach which explores the following questions:
Is it true? (Is it true for me – do I believe this to be true?)
Is it absolutely true? (Is it 100% and totally certain this is true? Can I know more than God / Reality?)
Who would I be without this thought / belief? (What would happen if I could no longer think this thought)
Can I see a reason to let go of the thought / belief? (Could I let this go?)
What’s the turnaround (the opposite, or alternative thought of belief)? (Can be more than one).
Finally, I’ll use the Sedona Method’s advantages and disadvantages process which consists of using the following questions to facilitate freedom, beingness and letting go…
What’s an advantage to me of having this belief?
Is that coming from a wanting control, approval or security?
Could I let that go?
What’s a disadvantage of that belief?
I will do the Sedona Method on both the ‘old belief’ and the ‘new belief’.
By doing all of these, each of which I know works, I will be putting probability well on side for results.